I have always heard that there are less and less women that are wanting to have babies. But if you visit my ward here in Saskatoon, that is hardly believable.
Last night at work, however, I was the sole woman in the group with children. And further, the sole woman in the group who DESIRED to have children. These other girls were young, married, working.... and that is all they wanted. Reasons? Cause they didn't want to look old. Cause they didn't want to be bothered. Cause they didn't want to change diapers. Cause they didn't want stretch marks. I was shocked. I knew not everyone was gung-ho on the baby wagon, but how on earth does not having kids keep you from turning 65?
They sort of felt bad saying these things to me, worried that I would be offended (these are very good, nice girls, by-the-way). All I could answer is that every sacrifice you make is worth it.
Every dollar spent on diapers and crackers, every day spent picking up toys and wiping down the high chair, every pay check lost to staying home (when possible). Even the change in figure, the loss of abdominal muscles, the loss of hair, the baggy eyes (among other things), the tired mornings, the sleepless nights. Kids are so worth it!!! Why? Cause along with stretch marks comes a stretch in ourselves. We learn, we love, we are loved back, we play, we laugh at things that were never funny before they came into our world. We learn patience (why oh why does that one take so long??!!) We learn that there are things more important than money and vacations and big houses and shopping malls. We learn to value what really matters, and what will last in the long run.
I am so grateful for my boys. They whine and they have runny noses, but they teach me and love me. And for that I am willing to give anything.
Tuesday, February 26, 2008